How To Start Feeling Happier About Yourself

This is one subject that we all think about once in awhile, and I have found that altho' difficult, we can achieve a state of happiness so long as we direct our thinking to that state of mind. Sometimes I'll watch these talk shows that are targeted towards helping people with concerns of being overweight, being self critical, not knowing how to solve their problems, feelings of depression etc. and the one thing I find about these people with these problems is that they don't seem to know that it's their own thoughts, their own ways of seeing themselves, their own ways of focusing on more negative thoughts than positive thoughts that make them feel so helpless or inadequate. Their inner strength and power has become stagnant.

Let's face it....when you wake up in the morning and the first thought on your mind is, :( "Oh no..another day.." that's a hum-drum negative response to greeting the new day. Whereas if you were to greet the new day with a positive note, like, "It's going to be a good day.." you would probably feel alot better about starting the day. It's all a matter of what you tell yourself...how you're going to feel everyday. You can wake up every morning and say to yourself..."I'm going to have a good day today" or you can say to yourself, "I'm going to feel bad today". It's really up to what we say to ourselves.

I call that "Self Talk". Some people ask "What can I do to achieve a state of happiness?" For one, they can start writing a daily journal. Take the time to write how you feel about the people in your life, your family, your job, your hobby, what made you happy today, what made you mad. Do this for about 2 to 3 months, faithfully, then read over what you've written, and take note of the things that made you feel negative, sad or angry and you'd like to change. There's your list to start making positive changes to. Start with one thing at a time, take small steps and remember you have to walk before you can run.

So don't be too hard on yourself, you're not going to fix everything in one day, one week or even one month, it's going to take time to change the pattern of your thinking, but it can be done. Start trying to radiate an outward feeling of happiness. Feelings that are positive and happy will show outwardly and can create happiness around you and for others. Divert negative thoughts to positive thoughts.
Develop a positive outlook towards yourself. If you're unhappy because you're overweight, or your life isn't unfolding the way you'd like it to, start to make positive changes to those undesirable feelings and make it a goal to change to positive results.

Remember, it's how you "Self Talk" to yourself that will set the course of your thoughts which will make the pattern of the way you think change for the better. Which will help you achieve a state of happiness. It will take some effort on your part, but don't give up, don't fall into the pattern of being emotionally lazy, keep working toward a better outlook. See yourself as having a positive effect on your surroundings and you will achieve your desired state of mind. For more inspirational writings, affirmations and suggestions please visit: Myself Self Help blog http://myselfselfhelp.blogspot.com

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Have You Ever Smelled Your Life? Think About It.

Thought for the day: What does your life smell like? At first it may seem like an unusual question. On the second thought, the question will probably

reveal to you some things you may have overlooked. If you were to take a whiff of your life, which response mechanism would be activated? A gag reflex?

The laugh button? A sigh of relief? Or unspeakable joy? If you were passing by your life, what would you smell? A bed of roses? Or a gym locker full of

sweaty socks? Perhaps some of grandmas' home cooking? Or is it more like popcorn that has been left in the microwave too long? If you were to throw open

the front door of your life, what would hit you in the face? The scent of Carpet Fresh or the stench of a moldy basement? The aroma of a cake that's

just about done? Or the smell of trash that needs to go out? Most of us are very familiar with the way our lives look. Few of us have ever taken the

time to make sure that our lives smell as clean as they look. Quite often, what our ears, eyes and hands miss, our nose can detect. The sense of smell

is also quite useful because it evokes memories. With a whiff of something, you can be thrown back into a memory of something that happened, how it

happened and whether or not you liked what happened. From there, you are motivated to encourage or discourage the same thing from happening again in

your life. Most important, the sense of smell evokes feelings. If something in your life doesn't smell right, you will not feel right. If you don't like

what you feel, you know it is time to clean up! Until today, you may only have been concerned with the way your life looks. You may have ignored certain

things you heard or saw, but you cannot ignore a smell. Just for today, be devoted to sniffing around your life. Be on the lookout for rotting things

you need to discard and fragrant things you can put on display. Enjoy the day!

Excerpts taken from her book: Until Today by Iyanla Vansant.